For the girls, is an engagement ring a must?

Maybe someone will have such a question?

I'm going to ask my girl to marry me, but I don't think she would really appreciate an engagement ring - she owns fashion designer jewelry and stuff but she never wears it, except on special occasions, sometimes. Do you think her girlfriends will think I'm cheap if I don't bother? I think it's a waste of money if she won't wear it. Can you suggest something else instead that she might appreciate or use because I really do love her and I don't want her to think I'm not buying replica designer jewelry because I don't love her enough.

So many people gave him good advice:

First person said: I think an engagement ring is a must. I may be a sad romantic but it's something a woman may wear forever with her wedding ring until the day she dies. I think it does symbolise the love one person has for the other, as the wedding ring does this also. My boyfriend proposed to me and I'm so excited to have something that he picked out and has taken time, care and money to give to me to show how much he loves me.

Second person said: I believe you should get her an engagement ring. Since she is not a "jewelry person" you may want to get something a little less traditional, and go with a different stone than a diamond...something in a color she likes, or perhaps her birthstone (or YOUR birthstone, if you like). If she chooses not to wear the engagement ring, not a problem. You already know she is not a jewelry person.

Third person said: I myself am not a jewelry person....I never wore rings, and only occasionally wore necklaces. However, my boyfriend proposed to me in Vegas with a mother of pearl ring that I spotted at a store in Vegas....It was not a diamond, but it was unique, and he proposed with it, which made it so important to me.

Forth person said: When we got home, he later decided to replace the mother of pearl ring with a diamond. Now I wear the mother of pearl ring on my right hand, the diamond on my left. Why? Because of the significance, not because of my love of jewelry. Every time I look at my hands, I remember the moment he proposed.

Fifth person said: Please consider getting her a ring. You do not need to spend a fortune, or worry about getting the largest diamond you can find. You can get a simple but pretty ring for her to wear, to remember your proposal...and use the rest of the money you might have spent on a diamond ring to put a downpayment on a home, or to pay for a wedding, instead.

Sixth person said: Think about your beloved...think about her style, and find something that reminds you of her. Get on one knee, and propose to her in whatever manner you want....and offer her the ring. If she doesn't wear it all the time, ok...but that moment of you offering that ring and asking her to marry you will be treasured forever in her heart...and that one piece of jewelry may be the only jewelry she wears on a regular basis, other than her designer wedding band. Good luck, and congrats.

And someone said: I am not much a jewelry person either, but I did get an engagement ring. I haven't taken it off... except to have it cleaned and stuff like that. It and my wedding bands are the only rings I wear. I say get her one. Get a friend to ask her if she would like one... then it would get you the info without spoiling the surprise. Good luck.